My definition of Poetry

Writing poetry is one art I am in love with. Poetry writing is the first among my list of hobbies.

Recalling my first poem, sad but I have lost it with my precious diary, as I wrote in my earlier post. My first poem was rather not exactly a poem but a spoof on the song "kuch kuch hota hai".  My brother could not stop laughing in agreement after reading that. It was something like-

Exams paas aaye,

Mujhko sataye,

Inme na jaane kya,

Questions samaye...

Ab to meri books,

Aage naa badi hain,

Kya karu haye,

Preparation na hoti hai...

There was more, 2 lines on each subject, but I seriously do not remember... 

The above spoof was quite spontaneous when one day I was trying to concentrate on studies. Actually, most of my attempts at poems have been completed in a few minutes. I do re-read them and try editing. So , to me, poetry is semi-spontaneous.

If I ever have to define poetry in my own words, I would say that - " poetry is an expression of feelings tangled in between beautiful words". Of course, to be roped into a poem, the words better be powerful.

Poems are generally written in a flow, flow of emotions. Some people may find them too sad or too sweet and call it overflowing. But not for me. 

To summarise, I may also say that Poetry is a semi-spontaneous flow of emotions via beautiful and powerful words. 

This post was written in response to Indispire.

Do you read or write poetry? What was you first poem about? Share you creative side or your thoughts via comments section.

LOL

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How many times do we see a bunch of people at a park, doing Laughter yoga or Hasyayoga?

I am sure everyone in their lifetime has seen some one or a bunch of people laughing for no reason. Why do they do it? How do they do it?

Why? Because, either they are actually laughing or they are trying to tickle a laugh.

How? Ha ha ha, hu hu hu, ho ho ho, he he he... It would be easier if done in group when everyone makes an eye-contact. I bet, it doesnot take longer for the fake laughter to become real.

As per Wikipedia, "Laughter yoga (Hasyayoga) is a practice involving prolonged voluntary laughter. Laughter yoga is based on the belief that voluntary laughter provides the same physiological and psychological benefits as spontaneous laughter"

I have always said that my favourite quote is "Keep smiling". A smile is generally followed by a laugh. Believe me, comedian act Laughter Milton Berlet was so true to say - "Laughter is an instant vacation." So true it is. Isn't it? After all, what is a vacation? Vacation is the time when we are true to ourselves. It's the period when we feel relaxed and happy. That's exactly laughter brings to us.

Did you know that all animals laugh? Yes it's very true. I read somewhere that Laughter and joy are not unique to humans, the study says. Ancestral forms of play and laughter existed in other animals long before humans began cracking up.

Source: Various sources via Google images

So, if animals can do it, why can't we? After all, we are the mighty creation of god. I hope i have made a decent attempt to make you laugh or at least smile. If not, let me try and give some benefits of laughing.

1. Favourable Hormones Benefits:
• Laughter reduces the level of stress hormones like cortisol, epinephrine (adrenaline), Endorphins, dopamine and growth hormone.
• Endorphins make us feel happier and less stressed. They are also called natural pain killers.
2. Good for lungs:
• Laughing expands the lungs, stretches the muscles in the body and stimulates homoeostasis.
3. Good for heart;
• Laughter improves the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, which can help protect you against a heart attack and other cardiovascular problems.
4. Helps make abs:
• A good belly laugh exercises the diaphragm, contracts the abs and even works out the shoulders, leaving muscles more relaxed afterwards.
5. Helps Socialize:
• Smiling is an attractive expression, which is more likely to draw people to you rather than push them away. "Hasi to phasi..;)". Believe me, if I smile at an unknown person, he/she may make strange face at the very moment. But the person would definitely widen his/her lips a bit later on thinking the worst possible thing about you – ‘So stupid!”.
• Laughter brings the focus away from anger, guilt, stress and negative emotions in a more beneficial way than other mere distractions.
• Laughter connects us with others. It is said that smiling/laughter is contagious.
6. Can’t Laugh, no problem:
• Faking a smile or laugh works as well as the real thing—the brain doesn't differentiate between real or fake as it interprets the positioning of the facial muscles in the same way.

So, go ahead and Laugh Out Loud… :D

LOL...;)

How often you LOL? Would you laugh more after reading it? Your reply may make me smile. Put your laugh in comments.

Knitting the memories

I so wanted to post something about mom when I saw this idea and immediately voted for it. But mother’s day being around, I could not hole myself from posting about my Golden Mother.

First, a picture of my mom from her younger days. Well, I would have found that from one of her educational documents. But, I am at my in-laws and the albums at my paternal place. Then, I put my cousin sister at work and she did the job perfect.

During those days, clicking pictures was not so common especially in rural parts. So, apart from some blurred picture in her certificates, this was the youngest avatar of my mommy dear we could find.

 If I had to write her a note, it would be very long and I would rather not share it online. Still, let me try and share something not too personal.

Dear Mummy,

You know how our stomach ache laughing whenever we kids look at this picture. But, I realized your nervousness at my own marriage when I was asked to pose in similar postures. I had the luxury to deny and say that I am not posing it. You probably did not have that during your generation.

I had this luxury because of you. You brought this change into our family. You along with papa enforced and insisted so much about education. We being the eldest kids in family got the opportunity to lead and show the path to other younger cousins. I am so proud and lucky to have you by my side at the blink of eyes.

I am sure i would be short of thread if i ever knit the memories with you. I love you so much.

Guess what, I also wrote a few lines of poetry while thinking of you. You have been  and would always be my Golden Momma.

Love,

Gudia

This post is written in response to Indispire.

Have you shared your love to your mother? What was her reaction? I would love to read the experiences. Write them in comments.

Jack of all, Master of none

Being a mother, I would love to be "Jack of all" and be the best in everything for my kid. I would love my kid to say-

Best Cook - My mummy cooks best food in the world.

Best looks - My momma is the prettiest mommy.

Best knowledge - My mommy has all the answers

Best teacher - My maa helps me do the homework perfect.

Best Mother - My mother, oh! She is the coolest and best mom.

I would love to be the master of all when comes to motherhood. Thus I somehow agree to -

"Jack of all trades, master of none,

Certainly better than a master of one"

When the point directs to my professional life, let's see...

I belong to tester’s community. So, if I try an look out for job's how often do i see a requirement with "Candidate Required for Manual + Functional Automation + Performance Testing + Security Testing...". At least I have not seen any till now.

Maximum I have seen is Manual Testing + any one of above.

It is always good and advisable to have some general knowledge about all, but when it comes to expertise, I would prefer one…

"Jack of all trades, master of none,

Better than Jack of one trade, master of none"

I love the durations when I am scripting some automated tests. My time flies when I am creating frameworks. Dows that I mean I should master developer’s skills? I get the answer whenever I find a bug. A defect a day makes my day. So, in the end, I am a tester. If I ever set out into business, I can only think of something in testing domain – Coaching/Freelancing/My own Testing firm etc.

Some people may defend being master of all by avoiding boredom. But again, perfecting one trade does not mean we need to do the same task again and again.

Take a more general field acting. Some actors may be all-rounders in comedy/serious cinema/dancing etc. But at the end, they are actors.

Salman Khan may earn millions selling his paintings, but he is and would always be known as an actor. That's his identity.

Ratan Tata has ventured into almost every industry. Technology, Automobiles, Soaps, name a product and you would have a TATA version of same. But, did he master all of them. No, he hired master of each of the fields and delegate them to earn for him. So, even he is a master of one only - Business making.

It does not mean one cannot be Jack of all. Shahid Afridi – an all-rounder. Batsmen sweat when they see him holding the ball on the other end of pitch. Bowlers pray every time they throw the delivery to him. He was probable one of the first Pakistani cricketers to master the art of speaking. He gives amazing speeches. He is in a way master of more than one.

Okay, I have done enough dangling to and fro. The conclusion I reach here is that I would not prefer to be either a Jack of all, not the master of one. My grab would definitely be a generalist and have some reasonable learning in all. After all, my husband would be on cloud nine if I do intelligent talking among his business colleagues, college friends, homely relatives, squash club… I would definitely want my son to swim, paint, dance, top exams, everything.

Guys, think and decide your take on the quote. Remember, Jack of all for one priority may be master of one for other. If you do it right, being a jack of all trades should be considered a strength.

What do you think you are? Specialist/Generalist? What do you want to be? I would love to hear your thoughts. Do leave in a reply... :)

I AM – The most powerful words in our vocabulary

Picture this… Fill in the blank for below sentence 5 times with a different word each time

 I am …..

Well, I searched the almighty Google for the most powerful words and was flooded with search results, most of which pointed to the words “I AM”.

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Accept it or not, the words we fill in after “I am” what we are, what we want to be.

Let’s see. I say - I am beautiful. It clearly shows that I think I am beautiful. Whether I am or not, that’s a different story.

There is a superstitious belief that goddess Saraswati sits on your tongue once each day. Thus we should always mind our words. We never know what turns out to be true. I think that everyone would agree words once spoken cannot be taken back. They can only be amended.

Unfortunately, we generally, fill in this important blank with negative thoughts.

I am sick.

I am alone.

I am broke.

I am fat.

I am poor.

Friends, pay attention to what you fill in after “I am “because they clearly defines our world. Try and use constructive and jolly words here. Like,

I am healthy.

I am happy.

I am beautiful.

I am free.

I am blessed.

I am loved.

I am precious.

Practice makes a man perfect. Speak positive and shape up your reality…. :)

Honour Killing

Two innocent kids felt attracted to each other. They fell in love. They wanted to live happily forever. They belong to same gotra. Hey are brutally killed. Their so called parents watch silently. Sometimes, they are the killers themselves. Whole village watch in silence! Everyone is proud of themselves!!!

Such a shame! I am not saying that I am in for or against gotra marriage. That’s altogether a different topic of discussion. It’s OK they did wrong. It’s OK you want them to be separated. But, no one has the right to hurt them. They cannot be killed. The holly books may say that this relation is not allowed. But, I bet that none of them has any reference to perform any inhuman act with the guilty. The parents and panchayats have full right to make the kids understand that it’s not right. They should not do it. They cannot do it. But at the end, if the kids do not get the point, they may be thrown out of home, village or even town. Families and friends may refuse to keep any relation with them. Still, does anyone in the universe have the right to kill them?

The brothers of girl who have proudly let her tie Rakhi over their wrists every year, who love their sister so much that they cannot see uttering a bad word to her, suddenly becomes her biggest enemy. He forms a gang with his friends or cousins to suffocate her to death the moment she comes in front of him! He is the one who is most eager to behead her in front of everyone! The family of boy who invited whole village to a treat at his birth, who did everything they could do make sure that its a boy before his birth, who were filled with joy that their family name would now continue suddenly want him to die!

If the killers say that they have not done anything wrong, the why do they try to hide the act? Why don’t they get the incidence published at front page of newspaper? Why are the bodies cremated as soon as possible? Why is the body buried in between some distant field? Even Ravana was sent to heaven after he died! Why not poor little kids? Why is the post death rituals not followed for those who died? Why are the souls left to roam around in dismal and not rest in peace?

If justice has been done, why are the families left dishonoured after the act? Why are they pointed out generation after generation? Why do the brothers and sisters of families face problems when it comes to their marriage? Why is a black spot made over families forever? Why are they not seen with much more respect? After all, they have set an example for the whole village by killing their own kids! Why are the mothers blamed at every move they make after that? Why do the fathers avoid any gatherings? They should move around with broad shoulders!

Children are misusing their freedom. They are spreading dirt. They are setting a bad message. Really? Couples being canned back on the ground of lies. The guy is killed and girl is used as a sex object because she deserves it! Their supporters are left for the mass to be treated any way. Females are paraded naked. Is it the correct use of panchayat laws? Is this the so called Indian Culture?

Some people argue that it happens is rural India. There have been cases when well-educated families have indulged in this horrendous act of crime. Most famous Aarushi Talwar case is an example to that. I fail to understand the reason behind such recessive thinking. Is it the fault of our education system?

Right to speech. Right to education. Right to information. What about “Right to Love”? People talk so much about democracy. Everyone wants right to vote. But, when it comes to love, marriage, no law stands by. Local panchayats, individual families argue to let them decide what’s right and what’s wrong. Do I hear double standards, hypocrites?

Is this really an honour killing? Who is getting honoured from it? The list of questions is endless.

I believe that right education is the solution to every problem. Added to it, if there are stringent laws enforced by government, nothing like that. I really hope I would be able to build a respectful mindset to my son and make at-least one good human being who isa ble to honour his life and those around him.

Golden Mother

You loved the thought of me even before I existed.

You made it possible for me to become a baby from a mere cell.

You bear the pain to bring me to your lap.

You woke up at the slightest movement of mine.

You stood awake all night while I banged my little hands and legs in excitement.

You made sure I was ready for school on time.

You made sure you reached my school before bell rang.

You did my homework along with me.

You played ringa ringa roses no matter how you looked jumping.

You smeared your hands in glue for that science, drawings projects.

You quit your job to give me more time.

You slapped  me hard when I did wrong... shed tears after I slept.

Your heart broke every-time my knee snapped.

You didn't buy a dress while I brought 5.

You kept your most beautiful peace of jewellery safe because I said I want it some time.

You pretended smiling when I moved out of town.

You took all my tantrums days before my marriage.

You knew it before me when I was about to be you.

You were the one all I wanted when I became you.

You have been my Golden Gavel.

My Golden Mooma....

Friends Forever

We think of each other when we are happy.
We think of each other when we are sad.
We think of each other when we are talkative.
We think of each other when we are quiet.
We think of each other when we are high.
We think of each other when we are low.
We think of each other when we are shopping.
We think of each other when we are eating chocolates.
We think if each other when we are cranky.
We think of each other when we are lying.
We think of each other when we are partying.
We think of each other when we are not thinking.
We are Friends Forever

Elephant and Ricky

You know, yesterday an elephant came to our house.

He was so big (Opened my hands wide and high).

There was also a baby Elephant with him.

He was bit smaller – like my Ricky.

I asked him, “Elephant, why  have you come here?”

Elephant shook his head and waved his trunk.

How does he wave his trunk? (Ricky waved his neck)

Elephant said, “My baby Elephant is very good boy. He closes his eyes and seeps with his mumma”.

I said, “This is very good.”

Then Elephant started laughing.

I asked, “Why are you laughing?”.

Elephant said, “Ricky is not a good boy. He does not close his eyes and does not go to sleep.”

Mumma got very angry.

I scolded him. (Ricky said HUUp and pretend to slap the Elephant).

I said, “No! My Ricky is the best boy in the world. Right?” (– Ricky nodded his head)

Then, I told him, “Ricky sleeps before your baby Elephant.” (Ricky waved his again neck to show how Elephant waves his trunk)

“Ricky goes to bed with his mumma and closes his eyes.” (Ricky closes his eyes)

Elephant said – (Ricky tries to open his eyes)

“Close your eyes, or Elephnat would say see.. I told he is a bad boy.” (Ricky closes his eyes immediately)

I stroke my hand softly into Ricky’s hair and assured him – ‘Tomorrow morning, I will show that bad elephant that my Ricky is a good boy.”

Feeling sleepy, Ricky nodded yes.

Few minutes later, Ricky was asleep and was smiling in his dreams.

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That is the best site I have ever seen and would ever see.

This is how I made my son go to sleep one night…:)

Quotes from - Digital Fortress - My Favourite lines

I found below lines from the book Digital Fortress by Dan Brown worth noting:

• It is said that in death, all things become clear
• Everything is possible. The impossible just takes longer.
• Many hands make light work.
• Hiroshima, 8:15 a.m. August 6, 1945—a vile act of destruction. A senseless display of power by a country that had already won the war. 
• You can’t jump for the stars if your feet hurt, her aunt had once told her.
•  And when you get where you’re going, you darn well better look great!
• There are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of in your philosophy.
•  Quis custodiet ipsos custodes? Who will guard the guards?
•  Act first, explain later.
•  Child psychology only works on children.
• There are always other options!
• Force a hand, and it will fight you. But convince and mind to think as you want it to think, an you have an ally
• All the pieces in the game had shifted.
• The human mind is the fastest computer in existence.
• I’m a survivor—but survivals nothing without honor. I’d rather die than live in the shadow of disgrace.
• Dearest Susan,

            I love you.
                  Without wax, David.

How i found the book, read here - Digital Fortress by Dan Brown

Digital Fortress by Dan Brown

Book Title:- Digital Fortress

Author:- Dan Brown

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I read Digital Fortress during my college days and re-read it without any reason. Wait, there was a reason. The book was brought up from the shelves when one of my friend asked me for it. As it lay there after she returned, I realized, I do not remember anything. So, I flipped the pages again.

The very mention of some secret agency which is doubted on its existence and still one of the sought of places to work for every code breaker. NSA - National Security Agency (NSA) has the most talented and of course as in every Dan Brown book, most beautiful and talented woman Susan Fletcher desired by almost every man in organization. NSA is held hostage by an unbreakable code. The leading lady is fighting with everyone for her life, her beloved life and for her country.

Although I did not made an effort to look for it, but I am quite sure that most of the terms and terminologies used in the book are over estimated and many of them do not exist. May be because of my stream of education, but I broke the code on chapter 121 while the most intelligent and talented cryptographers and mathematicians struggled for it till chapter 127 …:P

I also loved the little part – “Without Wax”. Obviously I won’t reveal the little secret on-line…J

Like always, there were some lines which forced me to reread them. Read them here - Quotes from Digital Fortress

Do you like science fiction? How did you like the book? Would you go ahead and read it after my thoughts on it? Write your heart/mind in comments section. I would be glad to read out your end of thinking on the book.

Cricket Mania – Homemade expert’s Advice

Sqarefoot hai 430, rent 6026

Landlord salla batzmeez, aur ye chere pe no creez

nikalo apna kameez

Keep Calm, kanna keep kalm

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Nikla idhar se boss, to release karo button pause

Keep Calm, Keep Calm

Keep Calm, kanna keep kalm

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Abba giving sold dose, something-2 your bhadas

Keep Calm, kanna keep kalm

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Papa ke, chacha ke, fufa ke, padodi ke bhatize ke

ke muundan me mera kya kaam.

Keep Calm, kanna keep kalm

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86% ka MBA, aur photocopies karta hun everyday.

Scent of attraction, fir bhi no reaction

ye le distraction kanna, Catch to full action.

Keep Calm, kanna keep kalm

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Kabhi mahilaon ki jang, Kabhi activist ki sun

kabhi corruption ki safai, ladu aur kitni ladai

Keep Calm, kanna keep kalm

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subhan se le ke shaam, kanna keep calm

le ke prabhu ka naam,

Keep Calm, kanna keep kalm

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Ladies prepare the food early or before match start time.

Students complete their homework faster.

Kids do not want to go out and play is sports complex.

Romantic dates happen sitting hand in hand in front of a projector.

Television sets gone blank for weeks, starts displaying starsports.com in offices.

People leave for home from office early.

Clubs have special discounts running for their favorite team supporters.

Such is the environment during times of cricket – World Cup, T-20, IPL etc.

Starsports.com has changed it a bit as now people need not be at their home and sit in front of TV for the next favorite cricket match. Irrespective of the match being live or online, we cannot escape the commentary around us.

“Hat Nakli! Ye koi ball thi utha k marne wali…”

<Idiot, was is a ball to shoot in air? >

Come cricket and I have such experts comments from everyone in my home on each and every ball.

Well, these days, cricket is never out of TV. But this IPL and T-20, it has made people go crazy.

And this “come on bulava aaya hai” as if famous “Chalo Bulava aaya hai mata ne bulaya hai” is no doubt catchy.

I still remember the last IPL season when Farah Khan stole the heart by her “Junping Jappang Dil Jumping Jumping”. My kid used to wake up from sleep if the tune played anywhere.

Keeping all excitement and craze apart, the funniest thing about this game I find is the expert’s opinion. The international level top batsmen and ballers would go and find an ounce of water to die into if they ever hear how stupid they are. I know how badly I have tried to write/translate this Hindi saying in English.

Anyways, coming to the point, they should come at my home and watch a replay if their game with my family – to be precise, guys in my family. But this does not mean Mummy, papa, children, or anyone else is lagging behind. Everyone has tough competition on this…J

The batsman:

Gets LPW – Was he blind? Who keeps his leg as an invite to allow baller and hit it?

Gets catch out – Useless fellow. All he knows is to hit as hard as possible and let the ball fly.

Gets clean bowled – Who got him into the team? Can’t even play such simple ball.

Takes no run – Has he applied heena to his feet? Why can’t he run?

Hits off side – Can’t he see the empty space to hit a four on his leg side?

Hits leg side – Oh no! He should have hit off side. Two runs were there for sure.

Takes a single – Arrae! Why did he stop? Lost one run. Hu.

Plays a maiden over – All he can do is tuk-tuk. Wasted whole over. Better he gets off field rather than wasting balls.

Invites a runner – Drama King.

The baller:

Throws a Yorker – That’s all he knows. Throw the ball like a stone.

Gets six on his delivery – Who told him to throw a full toss at this stage of game?

Throws a wide ball – Has he forgotten to wear his lenses?

Gets a four on his delivery – Even a 5 year kid would beat this fellow to a century.

Throws a full toss – He should try to get the ball spin.

The baller throws a spin ball – How embarrassing! He is leading to a shame towards people. Is that how to spin a ball?

I can go on and on for each and every ball of the match. Going on to wicket keeper, fielder, umpire, third umpire and even the commentator! I find it’s really funny and entertaining at the same time.

The Startsports.com “Action recap” feature just allows those comments to go on and on even if we missed some action on the field.  Just imagine the level of fun and craziness when someone around us shouts any of the above comments out of the blue. Why? He/She would be n Starsports.com and keeping his/her calm… ;)

I know you are smiling inside. This is the kind of cricket mania I have at my home. What are the comments made when you watch cricket. The funnier the better… ;)

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Being Woman

Woman –

Few days back, we had women’s day celebrations at our office. Although on a lighter note, but still, most of the men had similar thoughts – “Why only women’s day? It’s become a fashion these days. We men do not get the opportunity to celebrate the men’s day.”

I had the same answer to all of them – “Because, it’s women who have to remind everyone that they are not objects to be played with.”

Some men argue that women are self-obsessed with themselves. They need to get their facts right. Can you name a woman in news who got her sex changed to man? Can you remember a woman who had a dream that she was Ram or Krishna and started dressing like them the next day? I cannot. Its men who are obsessed with women. Above all, how often do you read/hear/see crime AGAINST MEN?

When we talk of crime against women, the first few reactions that come up are – Rape, Eve-teasing, Dowry and violence at home.

RAPE – I need not mention any details on this. This the most horrendous act of displaying the so called manhood by men who fail to being visible forget impress a woman. Recently, one of friends shared a link which sarcastically summarized almost every possibility of Rape perfectly. The summary was sad but very true – My son would never rape a woman. - http://epiphanyinthecacophony.wordpress.com/2014/04/15/my-son-would-never-rape-a-woman/

Eve-teasing – I think, this is the root cause of almost all crimes against women which need to be addressed. This is the beginning of the thought that yes, I can go a step further.

Dowry – Despite all efforts, it keeps on going to the next level. There are headlines in newspapers about some super rich fathers giving a car to every guest at his daughter’s marriage. Give and take of costly jewelry is so called custom. All sections of society low, middle or high have their own set of standards towards gifts given to their daughters at the time of their marriage.

Violence at Home – I fail to understand the reason women take the very incidence lightly and ever give a second chance to themselves. We women need to get it straight – To err is human, to forgive is divine. But some things are nor errors, they are crimes. A crime need not be forgiven by any chance. Moreover, get the below lines hard into your head and heart -

“There are no second chances in life, except to feel remorse.” ~ Carlos Ruiz Zafón, The Shadow of the Wind

If I have to answer what need to be done to stop it?

• Beauties, respect and love yourself.
• Right to education need to be taken literally.
• Get your Son’s heart and head embedded with respect and love towards humanity.
• Spread the word.

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Below are some worth reading lines I found online (several pages, could not find the source.) Although same applies to a Father, brother, boyfriend, husband. But, the final, there is nothing called Fatherland. Accept it or not, we all tend to remember moms before fathers by default.

When I was born, A Woman was there to hold me: My Mother

As I grew up as a child, a woman was there to care & play with me: My Sister

I went to school, A Woman was there to help me learn: My Teacher

I became depressed when I lost, A Woman was there to offer a shoulder: My Girlfriend

I needed compatibility, company & Love, A Woman was there for me: My Wife

I became tough, A Woman was there to melt me: My Daughter

When I will die, A Woman will be there to absorb me in: My Motherland

If you are a Man, value every Woman.

And if you are a Woman, feel Proud to be one

Written in response to IndiSpire

ATTITUDE

He has got some attitude problem.

Her attitude towards life is amazing.

The so called “Attitude” is the word we get to hear and use in conversations very frequently. If as a common man, I think deep about it, I have following questions dangling in my mind.

What is this “Attitude”?

How does it look like?

Where do I get it?

Unable to get answers, I type attitude in word and look for synonyms. I get following:

Then, I searched the god of internet – Google and needless to say, I was bombarded with results. The most relevant definition I could relate to as per my understanding of the term is:

An attitude is the psychological response to a person, an object, to a situation, to society and to life itself that generally influence our behaviors and actions. Attitudes are either positive or negative.

Well said. Attitudes are either positive or negative. For instance, I get a scolding from my mother in law. I can have 2 takes on it.

1. Who is she to talk to me like that? She is not my mother.

2. Oh, that’s fine. Even my own mother sometimes blares out some words. Do I start hating her for that?

I would consider the 1^st take as a negative attitude towards my mother in law and the 2^nd one as positive attitude towards her. Needless to say, not everyone thinks the same way.

Going deeper into the term, ABC of attitude have been defined by - Van Den Berg et al., 2006;Eagly and Chaiken, 1998.

A- The affective, or emotional component which influence the behavior – Good/Bad/Ambivalent. Let’s say - I love sleeping.

B- The way we act or behave based on our attitude. Let’s say – I would go to sleep anytime I get a chance.

C- The cognitive part or belief of a person. It is generally based on what that person learnt from experience or observations. Let’s say – I am sure sleeping helps me feel good.

Coming back to my own thoughts, I somehow agree with Diane von Furstenberg on the words “Attitude is everything”.

I may have a god or positive attitude towards certain things and bad/negative towards others. Being human, I cannot have an ideal approach to everything. If I had that, I would not be called human.

Also, the few lines wrote at the beginning, the most common lines I get to hear relevant to me are –

“Delhi Girls have that so called attitude.”

And frankly speaking, I care damn about that. I mean, a friend from Pune once asked me that in front of her Delhite husband and confirmed that if she was right. To my own surprise, I proved her right. I replied

“If we have it, let it be. I mean, why you think so much about girls from Delhi.”

I don’t know why but girls from Delhi are always the talk of town. When I was in college (Haryana), Dilli ki ladkian were considered hot. They were the chicks guys would try on first. When I was in Hyderabad, people used to comment on our dressing sense even if we wore a salwar kameez or saree. Not to mention, the comments were not always bad. Some of them were really adorable and made our day. I went to Chennai to attend a friend’s marriage and the bride itself was conscious that everyone is looking at those 2 fair girls from North India. That made us uncomfortable and we felt same until some relatives of the bride entered the venue with 2 gorgeous ladies.

I am not saying, it’s always looks that draws the attitude about us. See, there I go again.

Anyways, Attitude, that’s what we were talking about. Guys, I am sure you would agree that you got to have attitude to achieve/succeed/get anything or everything in life. Even the father of our nation ‘Mahtma Gandhi’ has some famous lines on attitude

“We must become the change we what to see.”

“In the attitude of silence the soul finds the path in a clearer light, and what is elusive and deceptive resolves itself into crystal clearness.”

Read some more quotes I liked on attitude here

In the end, I would sign off with this short story which may change the attitude towards making conclusions without knowing the details.

A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted…

“Dad, look the trees are going behind!”Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year Old’s childish behavior with pity,suddenly he again exclaimed…“Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…“Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?”The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today.

I agree, not be judgemental is really hard. But, try and change the attitude, it may help.